We've all been doing it wrong

Know what I now find really hilarious?

When guys get mad and pouty towards other men who find their girlfriend or wife attractive and hit on her at a bar or party.

They flare up in anger and either tell the guy to back off, or sit back and pout as the other male talks to her.

I was talking to a buddy of mine and he reframed my mindset on this.

K, as we’ll call him, has a great view about how he doesn’t worry when guys hit on his wife because he sees it as his job to keep winning her over.

If he’s not doing that, he’s not doing his job.

And he’s good at his job.

These other men are jealous and insecure in their relationships, their fear, and as a result of the fear, anger, is going to end up repelling her into that other mans arms.

Not my friend though, he knows he’s the shit, and he is, and he knows that if he’s taking care of her, if he’s treating her well, she won’t have any desire to be unfaithful.

It’s funny how often our instincts are wrong.

We instinctively want to shoe away a competitive male vying for the attention of our female.

When the best course of action is actually, to befriend him, keep him close, and not cause any animosity.

It’s better to have a laugh that lasts a minute with your girl about the guy that was hitting on her later, instead of a fight about it that might have you sleeping on the couch.

So what will you do next time your partner is getting hit on?

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