Just two changes and it will work

“Fuck Tinder.”

“Ahhh Hinge sucks. It’s the best dating app, but it sucks.”

“Bumble Blows. Period.”

-JP Taxman

That was me a few weeks ago before I started thinking about the dating apps in a different way.

For context, the reason why I have become so apathetic towards apps is because I have been using them since before it was socially acceptable.

I remember being in the Colorado State University Library worried someone was behind me as I scroll though women’s profiles on Ok Cupid.

I was an early adopter of Tinder. Which had never worked well for me, until about a week ago.

Did the algorithm change?

No. We’ll since then significantly.

But does that matter?

No.

Did the women change?

No.

Did I change?

Kind of.

Nothing about me changed, I haven’t changed my hair style in over 7 years.

And Sure, I’m less fat and more muscular than 4 months ago, but my pictures on the profile were the same.

What changed was my mindset.

I reframed dating apps in my bead to be more in line with a marketing page for a website, Than a magic potion to find love… or lust.

I needed to just keep testing and changing my profile and strategy until it worked.

So I set off to do just that.

I started by analyzing what photo most women had liked on my hinge profile. What I noticed was that they really liked the picture of me wearing a tie and blazer. Idk what it is about suits, but I’ve heard women find them to be the lingerie for men.

Along with that, and I’m sorry, but I did it…

I had to see.

Could an AI write a better dating profile than I could?

The answer is an astounding….

Yes.

Damn it. Well, I at least made some tweaks!🤷🏼‍♂️

Once all the photos were uploaded, and the AI’s writing was in place, we were firing on all cylinders,

I started to get some matches with some viable candidates.

I reach out, but I don’t get any responses.

Frustrating!

This is why I think apps suck. The girls just disappear because they get overwhelmed.

….was how I viewed it.

What I needed to realize is that I needed to be more compelling in my initial reach out, but how, I’d tired hundreds of various versions over the years.

So what was the magic arrow?

AH! It clicked

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Song trade!

Here’s mine:

https://open.spotify.com/track/1uX4eg17USq3HclX45P8Kf?si=eK0umTMdSaOIE89pQJsrOA

I love this song because it’s upbeat, positive, and deeply emotional. The intensity in his voice when it kind if wavers, mmm touches me deep. Its about overcoming self doubt and adversity, getting what you want despite what others think.

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Trading songs. Who doesn't want to find new good music, and hey, I at least get some great new suggestions out of it, even if she stops talking to me eventually.

I win no matter what.

But talking about music is the best.

I matched with a girl and we passionately swapped songs.

We ended up going on a date that night. She was super cool, fun, and athletic.

So now, the profile is all tuned up.

I made my two important big changes, which got me to the result I was looking for.

This experience made me realize I'm always only 2 changes away from it working.

So, what problem have you been racking you head on, probably doing it the same way for years and never getting anywhere.

Something that you just need to make 2 changes to find that success you’re looking for?

And if you already made 2 changes!

Just remember, you’re only two more changes away.

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